I’ve never heard of anybody on their death bed saying “I wish I had lived a more shallow life” — its always quite the opposite. People regret not living fuller, richer lives filled with values. And values are interesting things because they mean different things to different people and they can be hard to identify. In the October 2018 issue of Psychology Today I found an article by Dr. Steven C. Hayes that helps clarify values. Here are some highlights from the article found on page 55. I hope these highlights peak your interest and you choose to read the entire article:
From achievement and adventure to wisdom and wonder, not to mention kindness, innovation, and professionalism, values, are those things you deem important in life. Expressions of you what you care about, they profoundly inform what you pursue day to day, year to year. In so doing, they fundamentally shape the trajectory of your whole life.
Values are an inexhaustible source of motivation-inexhaustible because they are qualities intrinsic to being and doing. They are visible only through their enactments. They’re adverbs or adjective or verbs: “I did something lovingly.” Because they are chosen qualities of actions, they can never be fully achieved, only embraced and shown. Nevertheless, they give life direction, help us persist through difficulties. The nudge us invite us, and draw us forward. They provide constant soft encouragement.
Here are ten ways to know you’re focused on what’s important.
1) You feel a sense of enough, rather than a need to measure whether you have more or less than others.
2) You can readily name your heroes.
3) You can single out the sweetest moments of your life.
4) You can identify your greatest pain.
5) You don’t know the content, but you can identify the theme of the next chapter of your life narrative.
6) It’s what you would do if nobody were looking.
7) Your decisions make you feel like getting up in the morning.
8) You can, in only a few minutes, write about what matters. (And you should.)
9) You have a strong desire to communicate your interests to others.
10) You use your mind as a tool to humanize rather than objectify yourself.
Again, the above was taken from Psychology Today, page 55, October 2018 issue - the full article was written by Dr. Steven C. Hayes. We all do better when we are living value driven lives - its hard to do but well worth it!!!!!!!