I get into funks sometimes and its hard to pull out of them. Often I get bursts of energy and think about all the things that would be fun and productive to do and then I don't do them. When I'm in one of those spaces I often starting digging through self help books or look online for blogs and articles that can point me in the right direction and invariably I get sent back to very basic ideas that if practiced daily would make my life a joy.
Recently, after a very long and frustrating day I was in one of those funks and found the following article - hope you enjoy reading it and as you consider practicing the following steps always be gentle with yourself. These ten ideas are essential to a happy life but require patience and practice ... they are easier said than done.
10 Ways To Make Your Life Better, Starting Today
The world is full of opportunities, but sometimes too much thinking can get in the way. Changing your life for the better is about picking a destination and taking one step at a time to get there. If you try to take shortcuts, you may actually end up making your journey longer and more arduous. Getting serious about making improvements is a great start, and taking action is the next important step.
Here, then, are 10 tips to help you start improving your life:
- Be grateful for what you have. When you stop to remember what you have instead of worrying about what you may not be getting, it changes your perspective for the better.
- Start your day the night before. The most successful people I know end their workday by making a list of what they have to do the following day or two ahead. This allows the subconscious to work on things while you sleep.
- Be ready to grow up. Adults have the ability to learn to delay gratification, but we also have a choice as to how to behave when things don’t go our way. If you remember to take the high road, you’ll end up where you want to be.
- Drop the attitude. If you think the world owes you a living, you might want to reevaluate your position. It is quite possible that, by feeling entitled, you are pushing away things and people you might like.
- Don’t ignore your emotions, but remember that feelings aren’t facts.Emotions need to be honored—they don’t have to be justified—but just because you have a feeling doesn’t mean that you are right.
- Watch out for negative thinking. Sometimes we get into negative feedback loops and don’t even know it. If thoughts of being helpless and hopeless continue to enter your mind, you might just need to take a nap or perhaps talk with someone who can help.
- Set up and stick to a routine. We are creatures of habit; and good habits, such as getting regular exercise, make us feel better. Maintaining good habits also helps us feel that we have some control over our lives. Just do it.
- Drop your resentments. We all have them. Whether they are toward our parents, partners, or peers, resentments take up too much psychic space to allow us to function properly. By choosing to drop them, you will make your life much lighter. But the hardest part is making the decision to let your resentments go.
- Know who you really are, and learn to honor yourself. We all fake it from time to time and once in a while, this can be a good thing, but never compromise your personal values and always strive to be your best self.
- Enjoy a part of every day. Look for those little bright moments that happen all the time but that we often fail to recognize. Make a point of seeing some good in every day, and you will change your life.
Written by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D.