For those of us who grew up in homes filled with tension, stress and unresolved conflicts the idea of fun is a very foreign concept. One of the characteristics of adult children of dysfunctional families is: "An inability to relax and have fun. We cannot have fun because it is stressful, especially when others are watching. The wounded inner child inside is frightened, and in an effort to appear perfect, exercises strict self-control". (Copied from the Sea Ridge Foundation Site).
Yet, fun and relaxation is so very important. I was lucky enough to spend last weekend in Chicago with a friend. We flew out to see the musical Hamilton and just tooled around the city. We stumbled onto an exhibit of the Rolling Stones, took a guided tour of Chicago crime scenes, and just enjoyed strolling around a city filled with incredible architecture and a beautiful pier on Lake Michigan. I came back feeling refreshed and feeling so blessed that I was able to take a break from my normal routine.
Its important to carve out time and resources for fun and relaxation. Here are some benefits:
- Reduces Stress
- Increases Serotonin
- Improves Ability to Cope
- Boosts Energy
- Improves Memory and Concentration
- Improves Connection with Others
- Sounder Sleep
- Positive Patterns
So let go -- be silly, giggle, allow yourself to look foolish - its in the letting go that we find the space to be creative and grateful.